So how does it happen?
There is of course no one scenario that creates financial trauma.
It can come from:
In cases where the financial trauma is being dealt with secretly or quietly, most often, these people will either withdraw socially or develop an overt personality, that has them present that they are doing okay, when really behind the scenes they are not.
Those whom have their circumstances known to either a family member, friend or loved one, have access to more support, encouragement or optimism towards them in a loving way, however, providing positive advise, being happy or supportive, as loving as it may seem, is not enough to a person in this distressed state,
Lets be real. We don't like to see people we care about deeply in pain, so we will do what we know to our best capability to avoid pain, and to deter them away from it. This seems like a solution that appears sufficient enough on the surface, however, it doesn't always provide the space for the person to fully express what’s really happening for them internally, which contributes to them feeling more emotionally alienated.
What's needed here is to understand their state of mind.
With financial trauma comes an excessive and extreme loss of personal power. To the point where some see no way out and resort to extreme measures of ending one’s own life to avoid the emotional pain, the shame, continuous emotional distress, impending doom for their future, the loss of choice, the loss of freedom, the loss of joyful experiences, and the loss of being able to give.
Others will find a way to cope by finding themselves “a life raft” whether it is throwing themselves into something that is going to put their energy in another direction, however, this can be often a scapegoat for not feeling the total impact of the situation, and will find that later down the track these feelings will surface again in a bigger way, if not acknowledged and dealt with.
The understanding needed for someone in this situation is that they are continuously, and I mean continuously reminded, whether it be their environment, the people they are around, their bank balance, their lifestyle, they are showed that they are in this hole with no way out and that this is their life now. This is it. All there is. And so the internal mental and emotional energetic loop keeps circulating over and over again
When they are around others, they will often:
They also feel isolation due to not knowing how to connect in the ways that many do that require going out and doing simple activities. Therefore, their personal interest level will drop as their only and primary interest is survival. They hear about a person looking at buying a new car, renovating a house, or buying their second apartment whilst going on a holiday overseas. All of this will be another twist of the knife for someone who is experiencing financial trauma. All they can hear and be reminded of is how they are not even close to that position, and based on their age, income, prospects, society, and what they have now…they never will be ever again.
It is a jail with invisible bars that you carry with you everywhere you go
What you need to understand is that they know how to get money. They have done so in the past. They are not psychological unequipped to know this. The problem is much deeper now.
When our finances take a blow, so do we, and it can be a big thing to bounce back from. Often unresolved feelings such as guilt, shame, anger and grief, can hold a person in energy of non-inactivity for some time, and in some cases create depression.
How quickly a person bounces back depends on the individual. It also depends on how they have perceived attaining financial gain in the past also.
The problem is that we have to take in consideration the life stage that they are in and also their age. There is a progression that tends to occur as we age. If say someone is in their 40’s and they have been impacted with experiencing financial trauma, the things that used to drive them in the past no longer may drive them as much now. A different set of values can set in. Therefore motivation and desire change.
So how do we get out of the mind jail to find our inner money tree again?
This is in-fact the tricky part of it all. Acceptance of being in it is part of the process. Fighting and pulling on the bars doesn't get you out of the jail. Anything that accesses a different part of the brain, and interrupts the fight-or-flight survival pattern, even reading this article, is a starting point. The fight or flight survival aspect of the brain is enhanced in this state, so we need to interrupt it to break out of it, however, this will not actually get you out of the mind jail. It will only assist with your acceptance of being in it, which is still important, yes, but this is not where you destination lies, so we don't want to be comfortable here.
Many will begin to feel safe, and experience feeling secure here also. Of course this is natural, given the experience of trauma. So what’s going to make someone want to come out of their mind jail?
The first step is to unlock the jail and the key to this is Inspiration.
Inspiration is being mentally stimulated in a creative way. Inspiration breathes life into a person’s state of being, and comes from new information; it is a state of feeling that occurs, that comes through connecting to something externally, that connects to a person internally. It can be attained through anything, even something simple, such as watching a movie, or reading something, or going to an event and connecting to one person that says the right thing for them, so as to have a person feel moved out of themselves for even just a moment.
The second step is opening the door. To open the door of the mind, what is needed is to be able to stimulate the Imagination faculties of the mind. Imagination is "the ability or power of forming a mental image of something not present to the senses or never before wholly perceived in reality."
The intention is to have them start to develop new thoughts and images, that don't have a monetary value connected to them so as to jump-start the imagination in expanding it beyond what it thinks it knows already.
The third step is walking through the door. This is the most powerful step and this is called Initiation - “the causing of something to begin." It is the turning point within, a light-bulb moment that occurs that says a person is now ready to access new knowledge and potential that has them commit to walk through the prison door to a new life path. They are ready to move on from their “story” and what has happened and are ready to take their step into the unknown.
Whenever our thinking changes, our actions change. This has a person feel more affirmed that taking the first step out from where they are, is going to make all the difference of moving beyond their current reality into a new one.....from old to new.
Of course as much as these are a few tools to assist, in getting out of the jail, the true healing of emotional and psychological and spiritual scars may require some additional assistance. We may need to explore on a deeper level as to how this has come about, it’s meaning for it in your life, and also what your unconscious beliefs are around money, wealth or abundance.
If you know of anyone that may benefit from reading this article or may need some extra assistance in developing and growing their internal money tree again, please share with them, as it could be the necessary seed, for it to develop from.
Written by Aliki Nektaria
Please contact me, Aliki today, for any further assistance, on: 0418890764
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Aliki has worked as a professional Alternative Therapist for over 6 years. She is a Clinical Hypnotherapist ( AHA Member), Holistic Counsellor, Higher Guidance Spiritual Coach and a Healer. A background of 18 years of energy work has educated her with a vast understanding in the knowledge of “Dynamics” which she also writes her own content on. She uses this knowledge to assist relationships, not just intimate but also, in business, work, professional, family and friends. She is able to pinpoint areas that are blocks to effective relating and connection with others. Aside from the above she has experience in understanding Soul Connections and how they can affect a person.